Keep your self in comfort
Self is our answer to the very basic question “who am I ” which an individual normally ask to him/her -self whenever a person in somewhat dilemma and feel complexity to the situation, which is demanding, confusing, threatening for the organism. Answers of the question (who I am) not only help us to come above the situation with a creative solution, it also helps in the development of better understanding, acceptance between organism and extrinsic environment factor. This understanding opens the ways to congruence, improved level of satisfaction, adjustment and so on.
How one can able to find the answer to the question “who I am.” The irony is that there is not convenient and perfect prescription is available until now. However, this is the very basic questions of life, since from beginning human beings trying to answer this question and philosophy of life as human evolve define, explained, experimented very significantly. Result of this process is that now we have enriched theories available that facilitate an individual to explain who he/she is.
As we know that on this earth, every individual is unique, who have a very distinctive organism, experiences, interaction with the environment. How we can, assume that past explanation and theories able to provide perfect elucidation to the quest of “who I am.” The earlier definition no doubt able to provide significant help and explicit understanding, but they do not provide core key, that open all locks and lead us to full clear understanding about ourselves.
For the accurate answer of the quest “who I am” individual him/ her-self have to go ahead and take the lead role. The vigil look on the everyday experience, make the way that unveils the uncountable layers that make our self and lead us where we can able a see the element of self clearly, gradually we able to observe the difference, among other and ourselves.
In the beginning clear understanding of interest, abilities, liking, disliking, comfort, and satisfaction level can play a very significant role. After that, more fragile and subtle but critical aspect emerge and individual able to move on the track that, lead to the answer of the major question” who I am”.
According to Indian philosophy of life those, who are able to answer this question move towards the higher stage called, enlightenment, modern psychology gave this stage the self-actualization, fully functioning person (Rogers, Maslow). One cannot reach the enlightenment, self- actualization, suddenly or in one day, for reaching one had to travel a long fragile and suitable path, require extreme discipline aspiration, on the path, which demands self-generated discipline, courage.
How are can reach that level of self-discipline, will and aspiration to grow is long, process and development process, environment, play a significant role?
Self-observation leads to self-knowledge
Self-knowledge leads to self-discipline
Self- discipline leads to self-control
Self –control leads to self-growth development
Self-growth leads to higher-order hierarchy need
By answering these questions, a beginning can be made through
v What uniqueness I have?
v What weakness and strength I have?
v Acceptation, of uniqueness, enhancement.
v What irritates me create discomfort in my inner.
v What are the resource that increases my happiness and comfort?
v Identification of the resource hinders my comfort.
v What is the change I make in Environment, and lifestyle to increase internal comfort zone,
Uniqueness I have; every individual is unique to others on this earth. They are not only distinctive in the physical aspect, but also in psychological, emotional, motivational, interaction with environment, abilities, and attitude. This uniqueness provides a base to personality and constraint to the organism. According to this uniqueness, an individual must be offered the best facilities to evolve fully. Parents and teachers who bear the responsibilities and take care of the uniqueness of the child must accept the uniqueness in whole. Early identification of unique traits of personality is going to be one of the key milestone, which paves the way to a healthy developmental process. Generally, parents and teacher are not able to identify the unique traits of child personality and they follow the conventional process that is given high value by the culture. The outcome of this process is that neither the teacher nor the parents know the, what actually the child required and in the long run child uniqueness is bifurcated in two branches in which ones real and ideal self. The real self which an individual is according to his/her uniqueness and ideal self is learned which is formed during the developmental process and the child wanted to ought to be. The satisfaction and adjustment in life depend on the congruence between real and ideal self. Therefore, it is the responsibilities of both they try to limit the gap between two self.
Weakness and strength (capacities) For the development of healthy self-concept, one has to develop the habit of working fully according to his/her capacities. Any person who intentionally effortless below capacities or there is a significant difference between capacities and executions. In future, this difference will be going to develop many ambiguities in behaviour and if this discrepancy increase, this will going to induce fear factor in life, this fear will develop inferiority complexes, the low feeling of self-efficacy and in long run may develop phobias. In the gap of capacities and executions, intentionally word is very significant if the individual intentionally effortless to accomplish a task than only above stated adverse effect in behaviour will emerge. However, if the individual does not know his / her capacities or because lack of self –confidence accomplishes fewer tasks than the individual must seek counsellor help. The counsellor will help him/her to know the true capacities and then guide the individual in the development of the tendency to work according to the full extent. Once the tendency is developed and it becomes the part of individual personality, value system, individual receive internal motivation to work according to full capacities. The effort provides success, recognition and chance to further development, the satisfaction of other psychological need. The satisfaction of need aspire to go for the achievement of higher-order need, this has a positive effect on self, individual self grows fully and achieve the level of self-actualization.
As school are working for the all-round personality development of the child and enhancement of his/her capacities. For the school’s it is necessary to aware the child about the child true capacities and inculcates the values the habit, internalization of these values that keep the spark burning at the time of the challenge.
According to Indian philosophy of life those, who are able to answer this question move towards the higher stage called, enlightenment, modern psychology gave this stage the self-actualization, fully functioning person (Rogers, Maslow). One cannot reach the enlightenment, self- actualization, suddenly or in one day, for reaching one had to travel a long fragile and suitable path, require extreme discipline aspiration, on the path, which demands self-generated discipline, courage.
How are can reach that level of self-discipline, will and aspiration to grow is long, process and development process, environment, play a significant role?
Self-observation leads to self-knowledge
Self-knowledge leads to self-discipline
Self- discipline leads to self-control
Self –control leads to self-growth development
Self-growth leads to higher-order hierarchy need
By answering these questions, a beginning can be made through
v What uniqueness I have?
v What weakness and strength I have?
v Acceptation, of uniqueness, enhancement.
v What irritates me create discomfort in my inner.
v What are the resource that increases my happiness and comfort?
v Identification of the resource hinders my comfort.
v What is the change I make in Environment, and lifestyle to increase internal comfort zone,
Uniqueness I have; every individual is unique to others on this earth. They are not only distinctive in the physical aspect, but also in psychological, emotional, motivational, interaction with environment, abilities, and attitude. This uniqueness provides a base to personality and constraint to the organism. According to this uniqueness, an individual must be offered the best facilities to evolve fully. Parents and teachers who bear the responsibilities and take care of the uniqueness of the child must accept the uniqueness in whole. Early identification of unique traits of personality is going to be one of the key milestone, which paves the way to a healthy developmental process. Generally, parents and teacher are not able to identify the unique traits of child personality and they follow the conventional process that is given high value by the culture. The outcome of this process is that neither the teacher nor the parents know the, what actually the child required and in the long run child uniqueness is bifurcated in two branches in which ones real and ideal self. The real self which an individual is according to his/her uniqueness and ideal self is learned which is formed during the developmental process and the child wanted to ought to be. The satisfaction and adjustment in life depend on the congruence between real and ideal self. Therefore, it is the responsibilities of both they try to limit the gap between two self.
Weakness and strength (capacities) For the development of healthy self-concept, one has to develop the habit of working fully according to his/her capacities. Any person who intentionally effortless below capacities or there is a significant difference between capacities and executions. In future, this difference will be going to develop many ambiguities in behaviour and if this discrepancy increase, this will going to induce fear factor in life, this fear will develop inferiority complexes, the low feeling of self-efficacy and in long run may develop phobias. In the gap of capacities and executions, intentionally word is very significant if the individual intentionally effortless to accomplish a task than only above stated adverse effect in behaviour will emerge. However, if the individual does not know his / her capacities or because lack of self –confidence accomplishes fewer tasks than the individual must seek counsellor help. The counsellor will help him/her to know the true capacities and then guide the individual in the development of the tendency to work according to the full extent. Once the tendency is developed and it becomes the part of individual personality, value system, individual receive internal motivation to work according to full capacities. The effort provides success, recognition and chance to further development, the satisfaction of other psychological need. The satisfaction of need aspire to go for the achievement of higher-order need, this has a positive effect on self, individual self grows fully and achieve the level of self-actualization.
As school are working for the all-round personality development of the child and enhancement of his/her capacities. For the school’s it is necessary to aware the child about the child true capacities and inculcates the values the habit, internalization of these values that keep the spark burning at the time of the challenge.
Following are the main step, which must be initiated in every school
- Assessment and appraisal of every student’s psychological physical, emotional capacities.
- Healthy and safe environment
- Opportunities to excel according to capacities
- Success experience to every student according to his/her individuality.
- Rewarding the positive value
- Importance to working according to full capacities
